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Monday, May 16, 2016

Soothing Yourself

Sometimes when a person has been in a sad or unhealthy place for a long time they forget ways to comfort themselves. It is possible to forget how to sooth the sharpness of the pain, the loneliness, the hollow or wounded heart, the tired spirit. One can have the importance good, solid self care slip from their mind.

If you are out of practice, let's look at a few simple easy things you can to today, right now to bring comfort and centering to yourself. 

Self care doesn't require special equipment or any cash outlay of any kind. Let's look at some very obvious easy ways to begin right now to bring quiet to your disquiet. I know that some of these ideas are not brilliantly unique, but they are truly helpful.

  • Warm bubble baths for men or women truly bring calmness and centering to wounded hearts. The steam, the relaxing, the indulgence, the silky movement of warm water, maybe even the fetal-like dark soaking can bring comfort and relaxation in a simple way.
  • Call an old friend. You may have stopped calling old friends as other relationships took over, but I know that those old friends still love you and will delight in hearing from you. And laughter really is good medicine.
  • Listen to beautiful music. I don't love classical music and I remember people always suggesting classical music to me to help me to calm my nervousness. It never, ever worked. But I recently discovered a musician whose music is so calming and luxurious and perhaps you will enjoy it as well.
    Ernesto Cortazar is free and available on youtube.
  • Go for a walk. I know, seems lame. But nature, the beauty of bird song, the breeze through the trees, the enormity of a blue sky: these things bring perspective, rest, revitalization. Also, if you can get some endorphins moving through your bloodstream, well, you know.
  • Deliberate breathing. Yes, some people call it meditation. Mindfulness, centering, simply calming the mind, slowing down. When your mind is racing and your heart is hurting, taking a moment to get back to yourself can begin movement in the right direction. 

None of these things remove hurdles or get major work done or bring the answers but they can be used as a part of a healthier regime to bring better health back into your life. 

And you deserve that.

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