Did you think of that?
They're playing every single mind game at their disposal and you have bought into it in an effort to keep the peace. But now you've caught on. Now you can see it. Now they can no longer keep you confused, silent, compliant.
They're playing every single mind game at their disposal and you have bought into it in an effort to keep the peace. But now you've caught on. Now you can see it. Now they can no longer keep you confused, silent, compliant.
When you finally see their game, you become powerful.
Know that there is an end.
Know that you have choices.
Know that they don't get to define you.
Know that you have choices.
Know that they don't get to define you.
Know that there is safety outside of the system.
Now you know.
Wow. I'm so glad you are doing this!
ReplyDeleteThose are empowering words.
Love.
Thank you for your blogs. Very empowering and rejuvenating !!
ReplyDeleteI can't thank you enough for these! I have felt unloved by my mom, dad, and sister for years. My sister and I were adopted when we were 9 and 10. Adopted dad was an alcoholic. I wanted nothing to do with him. I said some things that might have pushed adopted mom away I was just protecting myself. Im proud of my 9 year old self! I'm 46 now and done. My half sister stopped talking to me because of me standing up for myself to my mom. She got moms version not mine. Haven't spoke in years. Example of my mom...she was on a cruise when something horrible happened to my immediate family. My hubby who has Parkinsons Disease went on a stroll up a mountain. A Rouge storm came in and he was up there fighting for his life. I was home with our 2 kids in TX. He was in new Mexico. He'd been lost for hours. They sent a rescue team after him. When found he was unresponsive and his body was shutting down. I was freaking out. Naturally, I needed my mom. She gets word to call. She's pissed...I can hear it in her voice. So I tell about my husband and all she says what do you expect me to do about it. I actually apologize to her for interrupting her trip. Ha, not proud that side of me at all! Recently my hubby has been forgetting things. Dementia is common in Parkinsons Disease. So we start doing tests. Meanwhile my moms telling me you know he's going to have to be put in a home. Get results back...his memory is great. Yeah, right? Nope, not in her eyes. I tell her the news pissed again she says in a rude tone...SO, YOU EXAGGERATED! My jaw hit the floor. Like I had the power over the doctors decision to do the test. So, a week goes by and I finally confront her. Ask her why she'd say such a thing. I felt it was rude. She goes on how she's never good enough for me. We haven't spoken since. She's now texting and calling my hubby talking about me. Found lost sisters and she apparently knows I stopped reaching out to her as well. Yep, I have 3 sisters...no relationship, adopted mom and dad, no relationship. My therapist tells me I expect too much of people. That statement makes me proud but also makes me feel like I'm the problem.
ReplyDeleteGabby, I'm glad that you realize that your mother is toxic.
DeleteRight now I'm disappointed that your therapist told you that you "expect too much" from people. You know what? You expect kindness, decency, and love. That is NOT too much. That is what they would like you to think.
Now, expecting those things from THOSE PeoPLE is too much, yes.
They will always disappoint you.
BUt there are wonderful, wonderfully loving human beings in the world.
Going 'No Contact' with my family has made me the target of their hatefulness. But that hatefulness does not reach me anymore... :)
Instead I have peace and love in my life.
I'm also DELIGHTED that your husband is doing so well, and after such a harrowing event!!!!!!!!!
Thinking, feeling, good-hearted people like you can be victims of families such as yours for years; I hope you find your people. You deserve it.
You're too kind! Thank you! I'm so glad you're at peace! I've tried for years to be the best daughter and sister. I find myself attracting the same kind of people in my life. Selfish people. Takers...I want to stop the cycle so badly. My mom's coming out December. Not sure how that's going to go but I feel sick just thinking about it!
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